-- "", , , , , , . . (22) .: Which, woman, specifically? ? , . (23) .: Well, most women really... but as you said that, 1 just started to think about Ihis one woman -- Janet. , ... , -- . ( , ", ") , , . , , , - , -- , , . , , "" ( "X Y ..."), -- , . (24) .: Who's Janet? ? , , . , , , , , , ... . (25) .: She's this woman I just met at work. , . . (26) .: Now, how do you know thal you didn't make a good impression on Janet? , ? . , . -- : , , , -- . " , " " , ". , -- : (, ), , , . , , , , ( ), , , . , , . (27) .: Well, just know... . , (28) .: How, specifically, do you know? ? , , . (29) .: She just didn't like me. . , , : . (30) .: How, specifically, do you know that Janet didn'l like you? , ? . (31) .: She wasn't interested in me. . . (32) .: Interested in what way? ? . , , , , : (): X?, -- (, " ") ( ) () -- / /? (: )? , , . -- . (33) .: She dind'1 pay attention to me. . , . (34) .: How dind't she pay attenlion to you? ? , . (35) .: She dind't look at me. . , , , , , , - , . (36) .: Let me see if I understand this. You know that Janel was not interested in you because she didn't look at you? , . , , ? , , , . , , , () . , : (37) .: That's right. , ! , . (38) .: Is any way could imagine not looking at you and her still being interested in you? , ? , . : (38) "X Y" , , . , Y, , " " "X Y". (39) .: Well,. ..I don't know... -... . . (40) .: Do you akways look at everyone you're interested in? , ? , . : (41) .: I guess... not always. But just because Janet is intereslcd in me doesn't mean that she likes me. .. . . , , . - -- , . , , , . , , . (42) .: How, specifically, do you know that she doesn't like you? , ? , . (43) : She doesn't listen to me. . , ( ). : - ( -- , ), , , ( , ). (44) .: How, specifically, do you know that she doesn't listen to you? , ? . (45) .: Well, she doesn't ever look at me. You KBOW women are. They never let you know if they notice you. ( ). , ! , . , "". (45) , . , : () " " ; (6) "" ; () , "", , . are ( ) . , , : () "" , [2] () "" , : (46) .: Like who, specifically? ? . (47) .: Like my mother.. .ah, God damn never was interested in me. () ... ! . , . (36, 37, 41), "" , . , , , , . (48) .: How do you know that your mother was never interested in you? , ? , . (49) .: Every time tried to show her that cared aboat her, she never noticed it.. .why dind't she notice? , , , ( )... ? : () (" " ""), , . () (, , ), () , , (, ). (50) .: How, specifically, did you to show her that you cared about her? , ? , . . (51) . ( ): Like all I used comehome from school and do things for her. , , . : () ( ), , () "", . (52) .: What things, specifically, did you do for her? ? , , , , . (6) (53) .: Wetl, I always used to clean up the living room and wash the dishes... and she never noticed... and never said anything. ..., ... . : () (, ) , ; () ""; () , ); (); () , "" ( ?) , , " ", " ". , , ( , -- -- ...), , -- , . , , - , , , , -- , . , , , ( ); , , , , . (54) .: Ralph, does mother not saying anything to you about what you used to do mean that she never noticed whal you had done? , , , , ? ; , . . Yeah, since she never noticed whal I did for her, she was nol interested in m. , , , , . , , , (: " "), . : " ". "". .: Let me gel this straight: you are saying that your mother's not noting what you did for her means thal she wasn't interested in you? : , , , , ? . (57) .: Yes, that's right. , . , , .: Ralph, have you ever had the experience of someone's doing something for you and didn't nolice until they pointed it out to you? , -, - -, , ? , : I. () -/ 2. () () 3. ... ... : - - - , -- , , . (59) Well.... yeah, I remember one time... , ... ... , , , , , . (60) 8.: Did you not notice what they had done for you because you weren't interested in them? , , ? , , , , "X -- " , - ( -- ), , , . (61) .: No, I just didn't notice... , ... , , , . (62) .: Ralph, can you imagine that your mother just didn't notice when... , , ... "X = " , -- , , . , = , = (63) .: No, it's not the same. , . , , , ( = = ) . , , : () "" ; () . (64) .: It? What is not the same as what? ? , ? . (65) .: My not nothing is the as my mother not notingsee, she NEVER noticed what I did for her. To , , : , , . . , . , , , . , . (66) .: Never? ? . (67) .: Well, not very many Times. , ( ) , , , . (68) .: Ralph, tell me about one specific time when your mother noticed what you had done for her. , - , , . , . (69) .: Well, once when... yean, I even had to tell her. , ... ... ... () . , "" ( ?) t70) .: Had to tell her what? ? . (71) .: That I had done ihis thing for her. If she had been interested enough' she would have noticed it herself. . , . ( ) . , "" ( ?) "" . (72) .: interested enough for what? ? . (73) .: Interested enough lo show me that she loved me. , , . , . : () , : , , , , : (6) "" . (74) .: Ralph, how did you show your mother that you loved her? , , ? , . , , , . , : : () () , : Your mother show you that she loved you. , . You show your mother that you loved her. , . , , . (75) .: By doing things for her. . , : Y = Y -- Y -- (76) .: Ralph, did your mother ever do things for you? , - ? (73) , . (77) : Yes, but she never really... never lei me know for sure. , -... . , , / , Y ^ - Y -- Y -- : () , , - ( - ""), () "", ; () "" ( : ?); () "" (78) .: Never let you know what? ? () , "". (79) .: She never let me know for sure if she really loved me. , ( ). . ;) "", ; () "" "". (80) .: Did you ever let know for you loved her? - , ? , , , (74). (81) .: She knew... ... : () , ""; (6) -- ; () "". (82) .: How do you Know she knew? , ? () (83) .: I...I...I quess I don't. ... ... . . , , , , , , . , . (84) .: What prevent you from feeling her? ? , , , ", . , [ . (85) .: Ummmm... ummmm, may be nothing. ... ,,. , . , "" "". (8) .: May be? ? , . (87) .: I quess I coutd. , . . (88) .: Ralph, do you quess you could also tell Janet how you feelabourt her? , , , ? : , , (89) .: That's a litele scary. . . : () ""; () , "" ( ?). (90) .: What is a little scary? ? . (91) .: That I could jusi go up and tell her. . , , . (92) .: What stops you? ? , . (93) .: Nothing, that's what's so scary. , - (). , . , , , , , . 2 , . -- 28 . , . . (1) .: What should I do first? ? . (2) .: Tel! me what you ara doing here; you said in the interview you wanted some help with something. , . , , - ( 2 , 5 ). , : , , , . . I... I want help .: Let's see, what I am doing here. with... well, it's my roommates. , ... ... ... , . , : () (" ..." , "... "). "" ; () "" "" (4) .: Roommates? ? "". (5) .: Karan and Sue, they share the house with me. We also have four children between us. () . . 4 . , . , : (6) .: What kind of help would you like with these two people? ? , "" , . , "". (7) .: They don't seem to understand me. , , . . , () , "". (6) , , -- -- " "; () "". (8) .: How do you know they don't understand you? , ? ( ). , , . (9) .: I guess it's that they're too busy... , , ... , () "" , () , " " ( ?) (10) .: Too busy for what? ? . (11) .: Well... too busy to see that have needs. , , , . , (). "", " ". (12) .: What needs? ? "". (13) .: That I would like for them to do something for me once in a while. , , - . , , ("-", " -"). "" , . (14) .: Such as what? - ? . (15) .: They really have 1"1 of things to do, but sometimes I feel that they are insensitive. , , . , . () " "... () , ""; () "" - "; () "" ( "" ) () "", , , , " "; (16) .: Whom are they insensitive to? ? "" ( , () ). (17) .: Me, and... , ... - . (18) .: In what are they insensitive to you? ? , , , { ()) (19) .: You see, I do a lot of Ihings for them, but they don't seem lo do anything for me. , , , , . . : () "" ( " " ""); () ""; () "", ; () , "" -- " ?. (20) .: What don't they do for you? What needs don'l they see that you have? ? , ? , , : "" (19) "" (11). .: I'm a person, too, and they don't seem to recognize that. , , , . - . : () , "" " ". , - ( , ) -- , ; () , "" -- ( ?): () (..., , ...), , , ; () () "" .: How don't they recognize that you're a person? , ? . , -- , (10), (14), (18), (20). "". (23) .: They, both of them, never do anything for me. . , , () "", ; () "" , ""; () "". (24) .: They NEVER do ANYTHING for you? ? . , . (25) .: No, not never, but I always do thigs for them whether they ask or not. , , , , -- . , , ( ; ", ") , , () "", ; () ""; () (); () , "" ( ? ? ?). , , - -- , , . (26) ; Let me see if I understand at this point. If someone recognizes that you are person, then they will always do things for you whether you ask or not? , . - , -- , , ? , , : : Y Y, Y . . (27) .: Well, maybe not always... , , ... . (28) .; I'm a bit confused at this point; couldn't tell me what those things are that they would do if they recognized that you're a person? . , , , ? , (22) (26), , ,